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Moving on up

Our shipment arrived on Sunday, shortly after the painters showed up to continue their slothlike work in our three bedrooms. It wasn’t exactly the best arrangement. We told the movers to shove all 117 boxes in the living room, which had been painted earlier in the week. Then we waited … and waited … and waited for the painters to finish the bedrooms so we could start unpacking. Today is Friday, and the painters are STILL not finished.

This is the color in my study. It’s dramatically brighter and pinker than I had anticipated.
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The movers conferring about how to haul all the junk out of two trucks up our narrow staircase.
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Problem solved! They passed the big stuff up to the balcony.
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The living room fills up.
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The moving company, Santa Fe Relocation Services, did a great job. Some of our wooden items have a bit of mildew, and a small piece of wood broke off our Chinese daybed (which also happened when we moved it to Laos), but otherwise we haven’t found any major damage.

Our wonderful new housekeeper has already unpacked all the kitchen boxes and tried to find places for everything, despite the lack of drawers. That’s right: NO drawers in the kitchen. Tony and I have dragged most boxes back to the bedrooms to create some space in the living/dining area for some living and dining. Eventually I suppose we’ll unpack the rest. But not until the painters finish… See a pattern here?

A Day in Delhi

A colleague asked me today how I liked India, and I suddenly realized I hadn’t actually noticed it.

Of course, the obvious (and usually disturbing) stuff slaps you in the face: toddlers tumbling and dancing at gridlocked intersections and then smacking on the taxi windows for a hand-out, men urinating on public walls and buildings without bothering to step out of public view, trash reeking on the roadside, rain-diluted puddles of holy cow poo splattered on sidewalks at the outdoor mall, flies landing on our sweaty foreheads as we wait outside our gate for the taxi to take us to school, washcloths draped over the taxi meters to ensure you get fleeced, and other familiar stereotypes of New Delhi. I’m amazed at how quickly those things stopped shocking me. Already, it’s all just part of living here. Normal.

Settling in to a new home and figuring out new jobs has consumed us for the last two and half weeks so that, honestly, we could be in any country right now. Well, any country that serves dahl and naan for lunch every day in the staff canteen.

With that in mind, I decided to take some time to reflect on New Delhi beyond our home and workplace. It’s not much – just one day of experiences – but here goes.

Soon after we arrived, the school organized a daylong tour around New Delhi for the new teachers, but it was a blur. My jetlagged brain was as hazy as the overcast sky. People snickered at my note-taking, but otherwise I wouldn’t have remembered what we did. Our tour leader Bandana (pronounced BAHN-duh-nuh), a former librarian at AES whose name means “worship” in Hindi, met us in the school’s board room before herding us on to the bus. She gave a crash course on India’s 3,500-year history, the country’s democratic political system (which works so well, she says, because “we don’t follow any rules”), a few of the many Hindu gods, and her morning routine, which includes wrapping herself in more than six yards of exquisite fabric and sticking on the ubiquitous bindi. “When you put it on, you should say ‘I can see the world through my two eyes; let my inner eye open,'” she explained.

The new teachers and their children crammed on a small bus, filing off for quick visits to a few interesting spots in the city:

First we stopped at the Salt March statue.
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According to the website A Force More Powerful,

By March 1930 the people of India are growing more restless under the yoke of British rule. Indian nationalists turn to Gandhi to lead a campaign for full independence. Having successfully employed nonviolent sanctions while fighting for suppressed Indians in South Africa, and then again in India in the 1920s, Gandhi moves to confront the colonial rulers in ways that average Indians can understand and be part of.
His first target is the British monopoly on the manufacture and sale of salt, and he leads a 250-mile march to the sea, where he and thousands of protestors violate the law by making their own salt. The British crack down, and many, including Gandhi, go to jail.
But civil disobedience spreads, and the campaign encompasses a boycott of British cloth and the resignations of local Indian officials who work for the British. All this puts great pressure on the government, and the British viceroy opens talks with Gandhi, who opts for compromise. Although the campaign does not dislodge the British from India, it shatters the legitimacy of British control and rallies the Indian people to the cause of independence, which eventually comes in 1947.

We also checked out the India Gate, the national monument of India, which was originally constructed as a dramatic entrance to the city for British colonial leaders. It now commemorates the 90,000 soldiers who died in World War I and the Third Anglo-Afghan War. The Tomb of the Unknown Soldier is marked with an eternal flame under the 42-meter arch.
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Bandana pointed out other important landmarks near the India Gate, but we all struggled to find a historical context. Tony and I kept saying, “Oooh, we need to come back to this some day.” And we will.

Our final sightseeing stop of the day was Rajghat, Gandhi’s cremation site. At the time, I actually didn’t realize that’s where we were. I just learned that by googling it. Pathetic. According to Delhi City Guide, we were supposed to walk around the memorial three times, which we also didn’t know at the time. Don’t despair, potential visitors! I’ll do some research before I take you out in the city.

This quote greeted us at the entrance:
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Gandhi’s humble tomb sits in the center of a grassy park.
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That was about all our culture-overloaded minds and weary bodies could take in one day, so Bandana directed the bus driver to a gorgeous restaurant, Indian Accent, for an indulgent lunch. Again, being new to India, I am useless at describing the delicacies we enjoyed at this little oasis. All I know is I ate so many appetizers (the waiters kept waving plates of lovely morsels in front of my face; how could I resist?) and drank so much sangria that my belly was full before the buffet line opened. I forced myself to pile up the plate with a little of everything. I wish I could tell you what everything was, but I can only tell you that I promise to conduct further culinary research in the coming months.

Since the day of our tour with Bandana, we have been tethered to school and our apartment with a few social gatherings … at school or other people’s houses. I’m itching to explore New Delhi and the rest of India, but I also look forward to the day when I can find the cafeteria without getting lost and I can relax on my living room sofa without first clearing a path through the moving boxes. For now, I have to focus on finding some balance, staying in the moment, allowing my new life unfold in its own time and letting my inner eye open. Breathe.

Dilliwala Dents

It’s been one week since Tony and I joined the teeming masses of the Dilliwala – the almost 17 million residents of Delhi. We can now be counted among the 1.1 billion (with a B!) people who make India home.

When we accepted our jobs at the American Embassy School here back in February, the headmaster told us, “Whatever is true about India, the opposite is also true.” We have seen this first-hand every day since we stepped off the plane. For example: Our first-floor apartment (which is actually on the second floor if you speak American English) is located in a posh Southwest New Delhi neighborhood with tree-lined streets, lovely parks and spacious gated homes manned by around-the-clock security guards. However, our building backs up to a sprawling slum, which is hidden from view by a large fence. During the day, a steady parade of slum-dwellers streams past in the adjoining alley, but they seem to disappear when they reach the main road. We hardly sense their presence except for the sound of chatter, laughter or crying babies. Our up-market neighborhood also serves as home to several cows that roam freely during the day. In a country where cows are sacred, these cows have it especially good. Although the houses and apartments appear huge and clean, often with lovely courtyards or gardens, the streets are in disrepair and feature occasional piles of sand or bricks dumped for someone’s construction project. The juxtapositions are never-ending and surreal.

We arrived in New Delhi last Sunday night after meeting many of the other new teachers at the Chicago airport (they were easy to spot as we had been told to wear our navy AES polo shirts). School administrators picked us up and took us to our apartment, where workers carried all eight of our boxes and bags upstairs for us.

What a nice surprise to see a traditional brass nameplate on the door!
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In the foyer, we encountered a little welcome mat, which turned out to be an artform called “rangoli” created in colored rice! Unfortunately, we only figured this out by stepping on it and messing up the design.
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Here’s Tony in front of our building.
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As we wait for our shipment to arrive, we make regular trips to a nearby shopping area to buy household necessities. It’s a nice place with two western-style grocery stores and many high-end shops … and the requisite cows.
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So here’s a little video tour of our apartment. Hmmm … I filmed this with my iPad, which I’ve never done before, and I just realized I created a very skinny video. Well, too bad. I’m jetlagged and exhausted, so I’m just going to post the silly thing rather than try to figure it out.

Artsy Fartsy in Detroit

We only have one more full day in America before heading to our new jobs and lives in New Delhi, India. There’s so much to do: packing, cleaning, winterizing, etc. Or… I could procrastinate and write a quick blog post.

I totally spaced off writing about our visit to the Detroit Institute of Arts.

Tony and I spent much of a day here recently, and we didn’t even see half of the museum! It’s fantastic. The exhibits were brilliant with fascinating interpretive displays that added great depth to our experience. Many signs featured a print of a particular painting with highlighted parts explained or analyzed. Some described the artist’s technique; others placed the artwork in its historical context.

When we visited the information counter, the lady said, “You must know about Rivera Court.” Instead of saying, “Hmmm… no, what’s that?” I just muttered, “Uh-huh.” So we walked into Rivera Court absolutely unprepared. Here’s what the museum’s website says about it:

The Detroit Industry fresco cycle was conceived by Mexican muralist Diego Rivera (1886–1957) as a tribute to the city’s manufacturing base and labor force of the 1930s. Rivera completed the twenty-seven panel work in eleven months, from April 1932 to March 1933. It is considered the finest example of Mexican mural art in the United States, and the artist thought it the best work of his career.
Rivera was a Marxist who believed that art belonged on public walls rather than in private galleries. He found his medium in the fresco, where paint is applied to wet plaster. Its vast size allowed him to explore grand and complex themes, which would be accessible to a large audience. In Mexico, Rivera’s murals tied modern Mexican culture to its indigenous roots, revealing the ancient Indian cultures as Mexico’s true heritage. Similarly, Rivera’s Detroit Industry murals depict industry and technology as the indigenous culture of Detroit.

When we crossed the threshold into Rivera Court, a docent approached us with an iPad. It was loaded with wonderful videos about Diego Rivera and his work, including an interactive map of the murals. You could click on a part of the mural to get a video about that specific section. I could have stayed there for days!

We “think” we’ll be back!

The Hossacks are Heeeeeere!

Our special friends Scott, Amy and Blake Hossack made their second annual pilgrimage from Canada to Lake Orion today. We taught with them in Shanghai and love them to bits. When my mom and sister visited us in Shanghai, they also got to know the fabulous Hossack family, so they joined us for a little lakeside reunion.

The Hossacks came to Michigan last summer and spent Christmas with us in Laos, so we had planned to return the favor before leaving for New Delhi. Unfortunately, I still don’t have my passport back from the Indian consulate, which means I can’t cross the border into Canada. Drat!

Despite the heat advisory, we did the usual stuff: fed the fish, waded in the lake, floated around on the raft, and took the paddle boat out for a spin. Such a nice day with such wonderful people!

The boys head out on the paddle boat.

Kate and the kids throw bread to the fish and try to attract some ducks.

Cooling off with freezy pops.

Blake and Paul play basketball with the fishnet.

Group hug!

Tony falls asleep while watching a show with Blake.

Glassmen All-Star Review

The Glassmen of Toledo recently celebrated their 50th anniversary, but until that day I had never heard of them. Now I can say I have. And “heard of them” is the just the right phrase because their sound blew me away.

My brother-in-law, John, had invited us to attend a drum-and-bugle-corps show, an annual event sponsored by the Glassmen. I thought it was his college’s marching band and that this evening would be a typical football half-time show. In fact, the Glassmen audition young people from all over the world every year to fill the 150 performance spots on the team. According to the Glassmen website,

“A typical rehearsal day includes 6-10 hours of rehearsal, depending on whether or not there is an evening performance. After a competition, the corps usually loads the trucks and buses and heads out for the next show or rehearsal site, anywhere from a three to ten hour drive away. The corps usually competes in over 40 competitions during the summer, and also performs at various parades, concerts, and exhibitions. The GLASSMEN season begins with our home show in June, the ALL-STAR REVIEW in Toledo, and ends with the DCI World Championships in mid-August…”

The Glassmen’s 50th anniversary celebration took place in conjunction with the All-Star Review, an annual fundraiser for the corps which we attended July 8 on the campus of Bowling Green State University, south of Toledo. Eight teams participating in the Drum Corps International Summer Tour, including the Glassmen, competed at the event. The music was spectacular, as I expected it would be, but the real surprise was the theatrical nature of the performances. The musicians, dancers and members of the flag corps created dramatic stories that poured across the football field in a polished highly entertaining professional-caliber show.

Sometimes the music got a bit loud for Paul. His best line of the day came when one of the teams brought out some long iridescent poles for twirling. Unable to pronounce “st,” Paul shouted (during a lull in the music), “They have big dicks!”

Nico spent most of the evening drawing, but he took an occasional break to appreciate the performance.

The Cavaliers of Indiana came in first place (the Glassmen placed fourth).

John played the contrabass bugle (aka tuba) with the Glassmen in 1994 and 95, so he joined other alumni on the field to sing the corps song with this year’s team at the end of the show. We were so proud!
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I really wanted to share the feeling of this show via video, but we were warned repeatedly that videotaping wasn’t allowed. I can’t even find footage on YouTube. Bummer.

Summer ‘o’ swimming

My little nephews love to swim – at my parents’ pool or at our lake. Nico wears his swim mask in and out of the water. And Paul, who will be 3 in September, has started tossing off his floaties to get serious in the water. Summer vacation … ahhhhh!

Kate made a surprise appearance modeling our mom’s water aerobics gear.

Boys and their toys.

Playing “catch” with Nico as the ball.

Paul hitches a ride.

Britt enjoys a moment of serenity.

Nico loves his mask!

One hail of an Independence Day party

As an oldest child with admitted control issues and a progressively worsening case of obsessive-compulsive disorder, I am a list-making, plan-following organizer who is not a big fan of spontaneity. However, sometimes when the rest of the world goes off-script, it turns out better than expected. Our Fourth of July celebration at Lake Orion (which actually took place on the Second of July) was one of those times.

We had invited the usual motley crew – my family and a few family friends. We had the awesome Deluxe Screened Gazebo filled with lawnchairs, beach towels, and lake toys. We had purchased a button-popping amount of food and drinks. I had spent hours chopping for my gargantuan veggie platter. I had picked up a chocolate cake with buttercream frosting from Kroger’s (my most missed snack when I’m overseas) with frosting-inscribed birthday wishes for America. As the day progressed, the kayak and paddle boat were getting a good workout, and the brats were on the grill. All was going according to the usual July 4th agenda.

John poses next to my beautiful veggie platter.

The men fire up the grill.

Nico and Mike fish from the dock.

Britt takes Paul out for a ride.

Suddenly, the sky went dark and a bit green. Surely it was about to rain. Should we take down the Deluxe Screened Gazebo? Nah, said my dad. My brother-in-law, John, swore he didn’t mind grilling in the rain. Cool.

Next thing we knew, marble-sized hail rained down with gale-force winds, pelting everyone and filling the Deluxe Screened Gazebo’s roof with ice balls until a plastic joint cracked into pieces, and the whole lovely thing collapsed in a heap. While we ladies watched from the dry dining room, our brave men salvaged our belongings and frolicked in the hail. John even continued tending to our dinner, risking a concussion.

Check out the video!

Our lakeside picnic moved indoors, but just as we sat down to eat, our power went out. This was status quo for us in Laos, but we weren’t as prepared for an electricity-free evening in America. We lit our few candles, but I scooped out cake and ice cream in virtual darkness.

The storm passed in about an hour, but our power didn’t return until around 1 a.m.

Paul picks up all the hail.

Eventually, we paraded to the lakefront to watch the fireworks show, but it also fizzled. According to the gossip mill, (a) one of the barges caught fire and a technician was badly injured, or (b) the power outage precluded setting off the cannons. A fireworks do-over is scheduled for tonight.

We had planned a sleep-over with my sisters, their hubbies and the nephews, but nobody seemed excited about staying with no power, so they all traipsed back to my parents’ house. It was too dark to clean up, and I didn’t want to keep opening the fridge to put away our few leftovers, so Tony and I just crashed on our basement sofa-bed (where the temperature was about 30 degrees cooler than upstairs).

When we got up the next morning, we walked drop-jawed into the kitchen. It looked like a bear had ransacked the place overnight. Cauliflower left on the countertop had stunk up the entire house. Frosting coated my toaster and coffee maker. Chip dip caked the kitchen island and chairs. Piles of sopping wet towels dotted the floor among scattered leaves, sticks and dirt tracked in during the storm. You would have thought we had a kegger frat party instead of a family gathering with mostly 40-to-60-somethings. There was nothing to do but laugh and clean.

Although I’m sad about the Deluxe Screened Gazebo’s demise, I have to admit the storm added a fun twist to an otherwise run-of-the-mill Fourth of July celebration.

Flare Night Done Right

“Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.” – George Santayana, The Life of Reason, 1905, making an observation about the development of human intelligence.

“Didja hear about those dumb**s newcomers on Bellevue Island who lit their flares too early?” – everyone at Lake Orion, Michigan, July 2010, referring to our bungling of the Flare Night tradition. (See details at https://www.dentsadventure.com/?p=1358)

July 1st was Flare Night. We were determined to do it up right this year. I even insisted on buying an awesome Deluxe Screened Gazebo,” which Tony and I erected early in the day. Piece of cake.

Yeah, Tony did most of the work.

The Deluxe Screened Gazebo was a big hit!

Our neighbors, Kim and David, have property that juts out into the water with perfect views of the red lakerimeter glow, so they throw a big Flare Night party every year. Their home dates to 1901 and captures the spirit of Americana we feel on this Independence Day weekend.

Kim’s Kandy Store was the highlight of the night for the kids.

The rest of us didn’t get the memo about wearing lime green polo shirts. Our neighbor Mark and my dad (right) apparently did.

Unlike last year, we waited until 10 p.m. to light our flares. We had a good condescending laugh at some new residents across the cove whose flares blazed crimson in premature isolation. Dummies. (It’s so nice not to be THOSE people for once.)

John and Tony light our flares.

The view from our front porch.

We popped back over to the neighbor’s peninsula for a quick look at the rest of the lake, but we loved our own little spot so much that we settled back into the Deluxe Screened Gazebo till the sparkling flares burned out.

The paddle boat – an impartial review

Paddle boats … are … stupid.

I’m sorry, but that’s the way I feel about them. Sure, they look like lots of fun. But then you pedal your little legs off out to the middle of the lake and then realize, oh right, you have to pedal BACK TO LAND. But your calves have turned to jell-o and you are about to have a heat stroke and a speedboat just zipped by creating a wake that nearly overturned your lame boat, and now no matter how hard you pedal you just catch air ’cause your boat is still getting whipped around by the waves and the paddle is more often than not NOT in the water.

So imagine my surprise when I returned to America this summer to find my mother had bought – you guessed it – a paddle boat!

Our home’s former owner, Janelle, visited last night and howled with nostalgia over the paddle boat. “Oh my Gawwwwd! We used to have so much fun in our paddle boat!” she screamed. “We’d paddle out with a few beers, me and my girlfriend, and then we’d get stuck out there and have to get towed back. And then they’d tow us too fast and we’d start to go under! It was greeeeeeaaat!”

I’m sure that was rad back in the early 80s, but it’s not the same when you’re no longer 16.

However, being the open-minded person that I am, I allowed my sisters (paddle boat defenders) to take me out for a little cruise. Beer-in-hand, I rode in back with Nico. I’m not too proud to say it was a splashin’ good time.

The nephews get excited at the prospect of a paddle boat ride.

Big strong John dumps the boat into the lake.

A swan family laughs at us.

The crew prepares to launch.

We have a little trouble getting out to sea.

Our lightning-esque speed made it tough for John to catch this shot.

How can you NOT like a boat that makes this boy so happy?