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Team Dai 2010 – A Few Final Thoughts…

Amazingly we experienced very few casualties – human or mechanical. Every bike and every rider made it to the finish line, not necessarily in top form, but that didn’t matter. Over three days, we had a total of four flat tires, fortunately belonging to riders who – unlike me – knew how to fix them. Several of us had problems with our gears and chains. My chain fell off repeatedly on that last day, and I often had to turn back down mid-hill to get all the parts working again before tackling the ascent. One rider, Nanny, actually had to get off her bike and manually move the chain if she wanted to shift gears. As we wrapped up our ride, Nanny turned to me and said, “Well, I think we learned a valuable lesson about buying cheap, crappy bikes!” Ain’t that the truth?!

Physically, I’m a wreck. In addition to the predictable sore muscles, windburn and chafing, I’m also black and blue. No, I didn’t fall off my bike. But I DID fall down a short flight of stairs at the first hotel. I didn’t trip; I just toppled over backwards and banged up my elbow and leg. I also sustained some minor injuries the morning after we arrived in Phonsavanh, when we visited the Plain of Jars. How can you visit human-sized jars and not feel compelled to climb inside one? I scraped up my knees pretty badly. Serves me right. On the way out of the archeological site, we saw a big sign warning tourists not to climb all over the jars.

As my sister Megan said so supportively this morning, “No offense, but I just can’t believe YOU did it.” I’m not offended because I, too, can’t believe it. In January, when we started training in earnest, I doubted my ability to complete the three-day ride, and that nagging insecurity plagued me right up until we arrived at the ice-cream shop in Phonsavanh. For some riders in our group, athletic challenges are a drug, and maybe their sense of accomplishment was muted by so many other similar ones. For me, this was most likely a once-in-a-lifetime experience, and I’m savoring it.

Team Dai held a promotional event Friday at the COPE Visitor Center here in Vientiane to present the big prop “check” to our three beneficiaries: COPE, Handicap International, and Deak Kum Pa Orphanage. Through private donations and raffle ticket sales, we raised more than $17,000. If you visit the Team Dai website, you can see a list of all the private donors. On that list of 122 people, I can proudly claim a disproportionate 15 friends and family members. I feel deeply grateful for your generosity and heart-felt support. Thank you so much!

Posing with the big check.
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Drawing the raffle tickets. That’s a mobile made from the “bombies” at the COPE Visitor Center.
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One of our riders, Mark, won the Amazon gift certificate.
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Last night, we had a big celebration at the Mekong-side home of team member Jeremy. Grete couldn’t make it, but she sent a box of chocolates, including big chocolate letters spelling out “TEAM DAI.”
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Our fearless leader, Wil, is moving back to Australia, but Maurice has agreed to take over the helm for next year. I’ve thought a lot about whether I’ll do it again. Most likely, I’ll find another obsession. That’s the way I work. But it sure was a wild ride!

A New Twist on Rivertime Lodge Ride

Remember back in January? When I rode 50 miles? And it was such a big freakin’ deal? Today, I got home from the Team Dai training ride, checked my bike computer’s odometer and felt a wee bit disappointed that we only rode 93 kilometers (almost 58 miles). How crazy is that?

This was my best weekend ride ever. I usually hit the wall toward the end of our long rides and then suffer the last 20 km silently (and not so silently) cursing the headwind, the smoke-belching truck traffic, my low blood sugar, my clunky Chinese bike, the motorbike drivers who zip out of alleys and on to the roadway without noticing the approaching pack of cyclists, my deteriorating knees, my bunched-up underwear, the single hair stuck on the back of my arm that I can’t find but continues to annoy the hell out of me, the potholes, the stop-and-go-and-speed-up-and-slow-down tuk tuks, the sun, whoever is in the lead riding faster than I want to go but I have to keep up or risk losing the “drag,” the dust, and just life in general.

Today there was no cursing! I seriously loved every minute of it. Why? Potential reasons for such a great ride:
* I fueled up with a big breakfast and then did a re-do when we got to Rivertime Lodge.
* Another rider, Lieven, bought ground coffee at a roadside stand and had the lodge brew up a vat of Lao coffee.
* We crowded our bikes on to a little wooden boat to cross the river, which kind of felt like a mini-adventure.
* We rode at a manageable pace and took a route home that we’d never done before.
* Our return ride took us through traffic-free countryside with rubbish-free waterways and rice paddies, which never stop surprising me with their shocking shade of green.
* The cycling chatter was particularly distracting.

This week, we took a different route to Rivertime Lodge, stopped for breakfast, and then crossed the river to a bumpy dirt road, which eventually met up with the paved highway back to Vientiane. This was my third trip to the lodge, so the photos may look familiar!

Cooling off, as per usual.
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The patient waiter at Rivertime Lodge.
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Tina (from Sweden) and me. I’m happily sipping sludge-like Lao coffee.
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Some of the riders headed back to town, but we opted to cross the river and follow a different route back. Too bad we couldn’t find an easier way down to the boat.
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Adam and Christine on the boat.
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Some Lao dude, Paul, Tina and Mark on the boat.
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Nanny and me on the boat.
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Arriving at the other side.
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Boat ‘o’ Bicycles (and one motorbike)
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Off the boat and up a steep hill to the “road.”
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Looking back at the lodge.
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Just a reminder: I’m not doing all this cycling for my health, ya know! We’re trying to raise $20,000 for three Lao organizations. Please consider making a donation via PayPal at the Team Dai website. Thank you so much to those of you who have already done so!

Books and Marriage

I just finished the book Committed by Elizabeth Gilbert. It’s all about her desperation to come to peace with the concept of marriage after her Brazilian boyfriend gets deported. If they wanted to stay in the States, getting married was the only option. Although I loved her previous book – Eat, Pray, Love – I just couldn’t get excited about the topic of marriage. But I gave it a whirl. And it was a fun little ride.
She details the history of marriage, pointing out that the Christian church initially denounced it! Who knew? Lots of other nebulous little tidbits were tucked in every chapter.
Perhaps the most shocking section for me was found on page 128. Gilbert crafted a list of her worst character flaws to ensure her boyfriend entered into the union fully informed. I was lounging on the sofa with Tony at the time I read this page, so when I gasped with horror, he asked, “What?” I read him the list and he nearly went into convulsions with laughter. There was no denying that Gilbert’s most horrible character flaws were also MY most horrible character flaws. I couldn’t have articulated my own faults any more clearly. One of them – #3 – really hit the nail on the head.
Here it is, as written by Gilbert to her fiance:

(3) I have far more enthusiasm in life than I have actual energy. In my excitement, I routinely take on more than I can physically or emotionally handle, which causes me to break down in quite predictable displays of dramatic exhaustion. You will be the one burdened with the job of mopping me up every time I’ve overextended myself and then fallen apart. This will be unbelievably tedious. I apologize in advance.

Yikes! When I read #3 out loud, Tony was in hysterics. As I write this, he is actually across the street getting a massage. I am feeling too stressed out to get a massage.
“Wouldn’t a massage help?” he asked on his way out the door.
Big eyeroll with accompanying sigh. “No,” I said, a bit frantically. “I have to ride my bike 100 kilometers tomorrow! It’s all I can think about.”
Another big eyeroll, from Tony this time.
See what he has to deal with on a regular basis.
Yeah, I do tend to jump on every opportunity that: (a) offers a chance to meet people, (b) makes me aim for a goal, (c) teaches me a new skill or hones existing skills, (d) lets me see a new part of the world, (e) involves friends, wine and music, and well, let’s face it, this list could go on forever.
That’s why I’m training for a 3-day bike ride with Team Dai to raise money for three local charities.
That’s why I’m obsessively reading in all my spare time to meet the 100+ Book Reading Challenge.
That’s why I’m launching and moderating a blog for the fifth grade’s 8-week PYP Exhibition unit.
That’s why I agreed to help out a Lao friend of a friend who has a translation business and needs editing support.
That’s why I’m attending after-school rehearsals each week to prepare for a dramatic reading of “Under Milkwood” by Dylan Thomas.
It all seems ridiculous and overwhelming, and as my doppelganger Gilbert pointed out, I do occasionally go off the deep end. Last night, I actually slept for the first time all week.
And yet, there’s nothing I would give up. I want it all. And I can have it all because I have Tony to prop me back up when my brain and body scream out, “No, you absolutely can NOT have it all, you big dummy!” and I collapse in a sobbing heap on the living room floor.
Which brings me back to marriage, the topic of my latest read. As Gilbert discovered through her research (both scholarly and informal), marriage is no walk in the park. She makes plenty of arguments for NOT doing it. But if you’re lucky enough to find someone who will put up with #3 – not only put up with it, but actually kind of like it – then I guess you’ve got to stick with him.

Dansavanh Hills #2

This is how far I rode my bike yesterday.
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In case you can’t see the decimal point on the dirty bike computer, that’s 151.84 kilometers, or 94 miles!

Sunday’s Team Dai training ride took us back to Dansavanh (see the Jan. 24 post). This time, however, we pedaled all the way there before tackling the dreaded hills. And then we pedaled all the way home.

The ride got off to a shaky start for me. As we were cycling out of Vientiane, we approached a red light. I waited till the last minute to put my foot down, forgetting that I had recently added cages to my pedals to strap in my shoes. By the time I un-stuck my feet, I had keeled over like a drunk sorority girl. The fall banged up my knee a bit and delivered a mild ego blow, but nothing serious.

The ride out to the hills was perfect. Spirits were high. The temperature was low. The team stuck together, taking turns in the lead. When we reached the turn-off to the hills, we all cheered and then quickly recharged with snacks and water. I had brought my iPod Shuffle with my carefully crafted Biking Playlist (heavy on Beyoncé, Madonna, and old dancefloor favorites), so I plugged in and set off.

I had hoped to conquer the hills with less effort than the first time we went there. The music definitely helped, but I still had to get off and walk a few times (although it was no easier to walk than to ride; it just used different muscles). The road climbs and climbs with few breaks until it ultimately plummets down to the Nam Ngum Reservoir. That last stretch is a wild doozy. The first time we rode here, I braked almost the whole way, but this time I just threw caution to the wind and whipped down the hill. More than once, my bike went airborne, and I popped off my seat several times. Another rider, Christine, clocked her max speed at 58 kmh. “Faster than I feel comfortable riding,” she said. Me, too.

The hilly road ends at a casino. We bought refreshments from the roadside vendors and took a little break before doubling back.
Julie enjoys a refreshing coconut drink.
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Team Dai Challenge 2010 Project Manager Wil, his wife Bridget, and their kids, Nina and Toby.
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Christine and me.
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Refueling before the ride back to Vientiane.
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One of the riders, Mark, won the Liar Liar Pants on Fire Award as we were huffing and puffing up a steep incline on the return ride. “This is the last hill,” he said. So when I crested the peak, I yelled, “Woo hoo!” and flew down, braking only to take a sharp turn, at which point I noticed yet another looming hill. I vowed to do something mean to Mark if I survived. Almost at the top of the real last hill, I jumped off and took a photo of Christine cruising up.
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Riding back to town, the team broke off in to three groups with our little pack taking up the rear. Our motivational leader, Wil, and his wife, Bridget, had each ridden one leg of the journey while the other drove a car with their two kids. Bridget was driving back to town, so Wil caught up with us and pushed us to ride a bit harder. Miraculously, we caught up with the next group and rode together in a big pack until we reached the Tha Ngon river.

One family pulled off for lunch at the floating restaurants – little boats that cruise on the river while you nosh. The rest of us bought water and treats at the side of the road. Our pack split up at this point, and I ended up in the back again with Christine, Wil and Jeremy for the last 30km back to Vientiane.

And that’s when I hit the wall. Despite tricking out my bike with a second water bottle and a fabulous new snack bag attached to my handlebars and full of raisins, nuts and granola bars, I felt absolutely depleted. We had a head wind and not enough riders to create much drag, but Wil and Christine kept us going.

When we reached town, the boys headed home and the girls headed to lunch. We got to Joma and joined some other Team Dai riders. I thought I would want one of everything, but it turned out I could barely choke down a sandwich. I guess my digestive system was taking a break as all my muscles cried out for blood.

Although I felt on the brink of death, I had to give myself a pat on the back. That was my longest bike ride ever. And I did it! Now, can I do it three days in a row? That remains to be seen…

Check out my Team Dai posts for more info.
And visit www.teamdai.org to make a donation – we’re trying to raise $20,000! All money benefits three local organizations that are doing wonderful work for the people of Laos.

Team Dai Poster

Here’s the fund-raising poster for Team Dai.

Team Dai

I’ve been training with this team for a big cycling challenge that will take place March 6-8 to raise money for three fantastic Lao organizations.
Here are some of my concerns:
(a) I’m easily the slowest rider, which means people often have to wait for me.
(b) Being employed, I haven’t been able to offer much of my time to benefit the team’s fund-raising efforts.
(c) My only social network (beyond the bike group) is at school, but I’m not allowed to promote the Team Dai raffle because our PTSA is staging its own raffle!
(d) All of the above means I’m not contributing much to this team.
Please help me help the team! Consider buying a few raffle tickets from me (if you’re here in Vientiane or if you have another way to get me some cash!), or you can make a donation at www.teamdai.org.
Thanks so much!

The Coles in Vientiane

Happy sigh … Don’t you just love house guests who give expensive Belgian chocolates for Valentine’s Day, stay cheerful when faced with no running water, happily explore new places on their own, whip up a tasty Mexican feast for dinner, get excited about geckos and tropical fruit, and curl up on the sofa with a Beer Lao for a game of Cranium? Seriously, the Coles are some of the most low-maintenance visitors I’ve ever known! In fact, since they arrived on Saturday, it feels like THEY are taking care of US. Such a treat.

Tony and I had to work on Monday, so the Cole family hopped in a tuk tuk and spent the day at Ban Sufa, an eco-lodge on the outskirts of Vientiane. Here are some photos from Dave’s camera.

They stopped at a market on the way back to our house and bought all the fixin’s for an outdoor Mexican fiesta. Yum! Tuesday morning, the Coles took off for Luang Prabang, but they’ll be back for one overnight on Friday before heading back to China.

Fun with the Coles!

When my friend, Kara, asked if her family could visit us in Vientiane during the Chinese New Year holiday, the first thing I thought was, “Woo hoo!” The second thing I thought was, “Oh crap, how will I entertain her two little kids?”

Kara and her husband, Dave, are friends from Shanghai American School, where we worked from 2005-09. They have two gorgeous daughters: Isabel, grade 2, and Abigail, grade 1.

Turns out I didn’t need to stress about keeping the girls occupied. They stay very busy in the yard! They pick up leaves and sticks. They pull weeds. They sweep the driveway. They play in the sprinkler (until the water ran out … that’s another story). They swing in the hammock. And they make furniture for their botanical fairy houses.

I took this photo only seconds before the knots unraveled and the hammock ‘o’ girls crashed to the ground. No major injuries reported.
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The munchkins also enjoyed the Wii Fit. Isabel even mastered the top level of the Table Tilt balance game. Monday night, we played Cranium, and Abigail – who is SIX – actually helped our team win! They are both such great kids, and I love seeing how much they’ve changed since we saw them in June.

Dave joined the Team Dai training ride on Sunday. We pedaled out to Rivertime Lodge (the same place we rode on Saturday, but it was a much harder ride on the second day!).
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Dave jumped in the river to cool off.
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Dave’s contribution to the Hunks in Laos Calendar competition.
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I was amazed at Isabel’s mature contributions to some of our conversations. When we went to a restaurant for lunch, I commented that Tony and I will probably always compare every city to Istanbul and every school to SAS. Isabel thought about that and said, “Maybe if you had worked in Laos first, then this would be your favorite place and you would always compare everything else to Laos.” How smart is SHE?!

The girls in Mr. Kek’s tuk tuk.
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On the way to lunch at Sticky Fingers in downtown Vientiane.
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Rivertime Lodge Ride

This morning’s ride with Team Dai took us out of Vientiane on a beautifully paved road that is closed to cars. What more could you ask? The road was built for the Southeast Asia Games, which took place in December, to take shuttle buses to the stadium on the edge of town. Bit by bit, the road is getting paved to create a city bypass to the Friendship Bridge, which crosses the Mekong River into Thailand. Until it’s finished, however, it’s all OURS!

Of all our long training rides, this was my favorite because almost the whole route was in the countryside with very little traffic. Our destination was another bonus: Rivertime Lodge is an eco-resort on the Nam Ngum River. We recharged our batteries by dipping our feet in the water and gobbling up some eggs, toast and coffee. One of the other riders said his kid’s birthday party was at the lodge, and they had boated upriver and tubed back. Fun!

See my other Team Dai posts for details about what we’re doing.
And please, please, please consider making a donation at the Team Dai website: www.teamdai.org

Rivertime Lodge
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Some members of Team Dai: from left – Nick, Australian; Siri, Lao; Christine, American; me; Maurice Sr. and Jr., French; Ben, Australian; Frauke, German; and Nieven, Belgian.
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Cooling off.
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Siri plays with the lodge mascot.
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Three Weeks to Go! Team Dai Seeks Your Support

One of the highlights of living in Laos is the ability to cycle out of the city and in to the countryside within minutes. Who knew riding my bike would also open my world to a fun new group of people and the opportunity to reach out to my host country? If you’ve been following my Team Dai posts, then you know I’ve signed on for a fairly ridiculous challenge.

Here’s the scoop from the Team Dai organizers…
The Ride: Vientiane to Phonsavan, March 6-8
The Challenge: 400 kilometers (around 250 miles) with an increase in elevation of more than 2,000 meters (6,500 feet) in three days
The Riders: 30 local cyclists aged 16 to 60ish from more than 10 countries
The Reason: To raise funds and awareness for three great causes. Please click on the links to read more about the wonderful work these organizations are doing for the people here in Laos.

1. COPE: to build a mobile workshop (retro-fit a truck/van) and support an outreach program so they can get services, prosthetics, wheelchairs, etc. to disabled people in remote villages;
2. Handicap International: to support their group of UXO survivors who are lobbying for the Cluster Munitions Treaty to be signed by the final four countries (out of 30 needed) during the international conference planned for Vientiane in October 2010; and
3. Deak Kum Pa Orphanage (no link ’cause it doesn’t have a website): just outside of Luang Prabang in northern Laos, the orphanage is home to about 500 homeless and orphaned children and urgently needs funds to provide basic food, accommodation and teaching services.

We’re aiming to raise $20,000 (last year the team reached $16k) to be divided among the three causes (all riders pay their own costs), and we’d really appreciate your support. We have a fund raising plan, including corporate donations and a raffle in Vientiane. However with only three weeks left, we’d welcome any small cash donation towards the target.

I know people are suffering all over the world, and it seems every organization is knocking down your door for a donation, but I hope you’ll be able to scrounge up a wee bit to help me give back to this beautiful country.

Donations can be made using the PayPal service on the Team Dai website: www.teamdai.org. If you make a donation, please let me know so I can send you a big cyberhug and heartfelt thank-you!!

Shakespeare for Dummies

There’s not a lot going on in this sleepy hamlet of Vientiane, so when I get word of anything remotely interesting coming to town, I jump on it. Last night, a little crowd gathered in a small conference room at the Novotel to see Daniel Foley, who has performed his show “Shakespeare for Dummies” in more than 60 countries as part of his Performance Exchange project.

Foley shuffled on to the makeshift stage, held up a drink and told the audience, “We’ll get started in just a minute …” He pulled off his slacks to reveal a pair of jodhpurs and then wiggled in to a fitted velvet jacket with lace trim, and the transformation was complete.

The first half of Foley’s presentation featured random facts about life in Shakespeare’s time, interspersed with theatrical interpretations of historical events and bits from the Bard’s plays. He asked for volunteers and must have heard my psychic message: “Pick me! Pick me!” I was brought on stage to be Juliet. Mike, the husband of our school nurse, was singled out to be Romeo. Foley told me to kneel on a satin-slipcovered chair (aka the balcony), look longingly to the back of the room, and recite those famous lines: “Romeo! Romeo! Wherefore art thou, Romeo?” So I did. Then he asked me to add a bit more drama, so I hammed it up with some drawn-out r-rolling and gesticulations. Then he asked, “Where did this play take place?” and the audience answered, “Verona!”

“Well, Romeo and Juliet must have had Italian accents then!” he exclaimed.

So I said my lines again: “Rrrromeo! Rrrromeo! Where-a-fore art-a thou, Rrrromeo?!” Mike then parroted Foley’s recitation of the “But soft, what light through yonder window breaks?” speech in a cheesy Italian accent and over-the-top gestures. We got a lot of laughs.

Mike must have made a good impression because it turned out to be The Mike Show for the rest of the evening. He took the stage again and again to play a Roman soldier, act out a speech from Othello, demonstrate stage combat, and more.

We all filed out of the conference room for a fancy buffet dinner, followed by a Shakespeare quiz, which Foley warned we “couldn’t win!” He tossed out lines, and the audience tried to guess the play. I knew ONE quote from Macbeth and a few from various comedies. Luckily there were several Shakespeare scholars in the room eager to show off their knowledge. During the Q&A, I did a few mental eyerolls when people asked pretentious questions framed in such a way to spotlight their obvious superior intelligence.

Mike and I asked Foley for a photo after the show, and I had to snicker when the deputy ambassador from Burma hopped up on the stage to pose with us.
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